Thursday, November 1, 2012

Provo vs. Mesa

I am entering the final moments in the fourth quarter of my game of higher education. You would think I would have a game plan, something snappy or clever or really anything at all. But that’s not my style. I like to let the audience sweat. I like to make them believe I don’t know what I’m doing. And I have to tell you, my performance is rather convincing.

So convincing that my brother Adam—in total concern for my well being—called last night to remind me that I only have one month left to get married before I leave ol BYU.

This idea takes me back to my freshman year when people said is was IMPOSSIBLE to get out of EAC as a single person. And the very idea of leaving BYU without a ring was inconceivable  

I like to believe I stayed single on purpose, but more than likely I just never got around to it.

It’s not like I want to be married right now, but I have to say, it would help in the decision process. Just last week I went to a career counselor for humanities majors to decide where the best opportunities for me were. Instead the session started with this question “Is there a boy” and lead to a 30 minute discussion on how my decision should work around where my husband is. Awesome

I plan to not do that {though he did bring up some great points on the advantages of marring rich}

Now I only have one week before I need to decide for sure. Here are my options: Provo or Mesa. And knowing my obsessive love for lists, here is a list of the pros and cons.

  1. I love it here
  2. I love my room
  3. I love my roommates/friends
  4. I know my ward
  5. I don’t want to have to pack up all my stuff (yes laziness will factor in).
  6. I’ve recently discovered the best antique book store nearby {I want to live there} 

  1. My friends will be leaving within the year.
  2.  I don’t want to be one of those people who are afraid to leave Provo so they just stick around pretending they’re still in college.
  3. I feel my life becoming stagnate here. 

  1. I get to live within 2 minutes of three of my siblings
  2. Most of my extended family lives there.
  3. I love Mesa and I know the area
  4. There are more opportunities there
  5. No snow 

  1. I have to start over
  2. I’ll miss all my friends
  3. I will have to be the new kid in the ward
  4. I don’t function well in city traffic and frankly I fear for my passengers
  5. No snow (I have a hard time deciding if I hate snow or not) 

All of this life planning I’ve been doing has made me realize that I shouldn't be in charge of anyone’s life, least of all mine.