I am
entering the final moments in the fourth quarter of my game of higher
education. You would think I would have a game plan, something snappy or clever
or really anything at all. But that’s not my style. I like to let the audience
sweat. I like to make them believe I don’t know what I’m doing. And I have to
tell you, my performance is rather convincing.
So
convincing that my brother Adam—in total concern for my well being—called last
night to remind me that I only have one month left to get married before I
leave ol BYU.
This
idea takes me back to my freshman year when people said is was IMPOSSIBLE to
get out of EAC as a single person. And the very idea of leaving BYU without a
ring was inconceivable
I like
to believe I stayed single on purpose, but more than likely I just never got
around to it.
It’s not
like I want to be married right now, but I have to say, it would help in the
decision process. Just last week I went to a career counselor for humanities
majors to decide where the best opportunities for me were. Instead the session started
with this question “Is there a boy” and lead to a 30 minute
discussion on how my decision should work around where my husband is. Awesome
I plan to
not do that {though he did bring up some great points on the advantages of
marring rich}
Now I
only have one week before I need to decide for sure. Here are my options: Provo
or Mesa. And knowing my obsessive love for lists, here is a list of the pros
and cons.
Provo
Pros:
- I love it here
- I love my room
- I love my roommates/friends
- I know my ward
- I don’t want to have to pack up all my stuff (yes laziness will factor in).
- I’ve recently discovered the best antique book store nearby {I want to live there}
Cons:
- My friends will be leaving within the year.
- I don’t want to be one of those people who are afraid to leave Provo so they just stick around pretending they’re still in college.
- I feel my life becoming stagnate here.
Mesa
Pros:
- I get to live within 2 minutes of three of my siblings
- Most of my extended family lives there.
- I love Mesa and I know the area
- There are more opportunities there
- No snow
Cons:
- I have to start over
- I’ll miss all my friends
- I will have to be the new kid in the ward
- I don’t function well in city traffic and frankly I fear for my passengers
- No snow (I have a hard time deciding if I hate snow or not)
All of
this life planning I’ve been doing has made me realize that I shouldn't be in charge of anyone’s life,
least of all mine.